Paying attention to the impact others have on your energy

by - January 12, 2020

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I like to think I’m a person that doesn’t care what other people think and isn’t affected by it - whilst I have definitely got better with time at not focussing on what other people think, I can’t say I'm immune to what others say. I have underestimated before the impact that side comments can have over time. At first, you can shake them off, but if you hear them enough times you do begin to believe it. Realising that is what has led me to notice how important your surroundings are and just how much of an impact they can have on you. Here is what I have done or found works to keep your environment positive and "protect your energy and vibe".

Leave people who are constantly make a dig at you or not saying particularly nice comments frequently- this includes those who try and half pass it as a joke and are trying to make you feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t seem like short term it makes a difference, but long term you do feel the effects and can feel a little more down or generally more insecure about what they were commenting about. If it’s someone you care about, ask them nicely to stop making certain comments that make you feel uncomfortable or more self-conscious.

Similarly, cut out people who just seem to have time to constantly bombard you with their problems, but never enough time to listen to yours. Yes, its good to help friends, but you also need the support- you aren't just an emotional sponge. Listening to other people's problems so frequently and not having people listen to yours can leave you feeling deflated and like you’re out of energy long term.

Focus on what you read and who you follow. Are they accounts/ stories that are positive or insightful? By this I am not saying avoid finding out about what is going on around you, but pay attention to everything that you read and whether an overwhelming majority are things that take it out of you. Is it something that you feel adds some value to your life. Or on the contrary, do you feel like when you come across it leaves you feeling a bit “meh”. Are they people who just suck the energy out of you?

Take time to yourself - unplug. Sometimes it might not be anything specifically. It could just be that you are doing so much that you are neglecting yourself a little and just need to stop and take a breather. Look at the surroundings you’re in - is the place your standing in a place that you associate with negative emotions? If so try and go somewhere else if possible. Even just a change of space can be enough to give you a burst of energy sometimes.

Be present - acknowledge how you feel and say no if it is not something you are quite up to. You don’t have to do something you don’t want to do. A lot of your energy can disappear from feeling we have to do certain tasks just not to let others down. Do things for you too.

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  1. I totally agree with you! And what about those people that say the disheartening comment putting a head o your arm or shoulder, or getting physically close to you in any way?... It's really important to shield off from the impact of others in some natural, healthy way :)

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    1. You're so right - have to be careful with toxic friendships. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. 💙

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